Weighing In - Do You Click with Your Weight Loss Coach?
Posted by Alicia Leeds on Wed, Sep 01, 2010 @ 03:49 PM
You know it when you feel it. You met this great trainer, new teacher, fantastic weight loss coach... and you just Clicked.
It's not something you can manufacture, not something you find on a resume. Usually, it's a gut reaction to the details about a person that you take in as energy, like the way he looked you in the eye, or her tone of voice, and that elusive something more. Something that makes you feel like they know what they're doing and you are in the right place.
Some of us are moved by the Click. To call or email. To pursue a relationship. And sometimes we wait optimistically after an introduction or second meeting for the Click to happen. But beyond some point in time can we let go without that Click?
If you are embarking upon a journey for better health... check in with the Click. Do you trust the person who is telling you to eat this and not that? Are you really being honest with the person on the other end of the phone? Are you willing to take a leap of faith and try it their way?
Ten years ago I walked into a yoga studio and met my first teacher. We Clicked. I went to her class four days a week and when she retired two years later I was devastated. She guided me through the start of my journey and I wasn't sure what I would do without her. But her influence was so profound that I kept practicing yoga even though it would be years before I found the Click again.
Last year I moved to a small town with a delightful yoga studio and I have, gratefully, Clicked again. Now I have several teachers, each of whom has something to say that I am open to hearing. My practice has deepened and expanded because I am ready to learn and I trust in their ability to guide me.
There are websites, gyms and medical centers, self help groups, pop culture docs and a gazillion other gurus to turn to when you're looking for help with your weight. And many of us say the same things, just in different ways. So seek out the Click.
You are inviting people into your life hoping these relationships will help you change.
When you identify the changes you want to make, visualize the people you want to have around you. What do they look like? What do they sound like? Do they challenge you? Do they coddle you? Do they make you laugh? Is your coach more like an army drill sergeant or a wise old woman meditating on the top of a mountain? Or both?
The people you choose will support you and cheer you on, but they might also tell you things you do not want to hear. You are asking them to help you be different, and so they will be pointing out ways for you to do things differently. Most people, no matter how much they want a different result, resist doing things differently. Over time, there will be hundreds of conversations, trials, successes and failures, good times and bad. The scale goes up and the scale goes down.
The Click helps you take the leap of faith with a trainer, teacher or weight loss coach. And in the best case scenario these are the people who will have a profound and lasting impact on your life. Who do you want to share your healthy life with?